A CABIN in the hills. Seven dogs. Five kids. A loving husband who won’t mind all the dog hair. Writing a book that’s probably never going to be published. I see this as a good life, my kind of good life. I never dreamt of something much more glamorous. (Yes. I still don’t discount my 50 Musts Before 50 as the items listed therein are similarly not as outlandish.)So now I’m asking myself why I’m so far away from those hills I call home. And it’s not the first time.
There were choices made and actions taken that may not be particularly aligned with the kind of life we have dreamed about because of various reasons that made us push through with certain resolutions. We make these decisions that may seem so solid at one point but when something goes off-kilter, we start questioning the soundness of the actions we undertook so far. Emotional and or career dilemmas, mid-life crisis or whatever it is you may call it, it’s not something one would look forward to at any point in his or her life.
There were choices made and actions taken that may not be particularly aligned with the kind of life we have dreamed about because of various reasons that made us push through with certain resolutions. We make these decisions that may seem so solid at one point but when something goes off-kilter, we start questioning the soundness of the actions we undertook so far. Emotional and or career dilemmas, mid-life crisis or whatever it is you may call it, it’s not something one would look forward to at any point in his or her life.
When in the midst of such quandaries, we know that as adults we have the ability to do something about these. Step back and objectively assess these catch-22 situations, reflect on the present things happening in our lives, realize the choices we have and evaluate them. We always have choices, these may not always be better or clear ones but we always never run out of choices. The resilient mind would dictate that no matter how difficult a predicament is, positivity should be employed—that any situation is an opportunity to seek growth in a time or place that we otherwise should not have perceived as a venue for such.
On the other hand, that traitor of a heart weakens you. It buckles as it taunts you about how half-baked, impulsive or plainly wrong was your decision. Moreover, it makes you long for the security you were acquainted with as a child. That certainty of waking up in the morning and knowing exactly the things that will happen during the day. No big, adult problems to think about. That time when talking about dreams and ambitions can be outlined in pencil and plotted out in colorful drawings. That time when dreams can be summed up by saying you want to live peacefully in a cabin in the hills.
We take caution and do the necessary measures to achieve those dreams but sometimes choices end up in disaster as we cannot always foresee how things will occur. When caught up in these tight spots, we get pulled back to those that truly matter in the first place—we’re encouraged to reacquaint with ourselves; we surrender and learn from anything the world can offer that very instant so that we can have more clarity towards making decisions thereafter.
We assess things with new and different perspectives, find new ones and maximize these unforeseen changes no matter how terrifying and uncertain they may be. In the end, no matter the outcome of any action, this will depend on how we perceive the situation. Easier thought and said than done however.
As someone caught up in a dilemma where inconsistencies and confusion trap me in this self-made cage, I can only count my blessings and hope to relive that courage to walk away from this tight spot. What beliefs and assumptions brought me to this situation? What can I let go of? Is there an opportunity being presented right this very indecisive moment that I can take advantage of so ultimately, I would still have that cabin in the hills. Soon. And I pray that soon is near.
On the other hand, that traitor of a heart weakens you. It buckles as it taunts you about how half-baked, impulsive or plainly wrong was your decision. Moreover, it makes you long for the security you were acquainted with as a child. That certainty of waking up in the morning and knowing exactly the things that will happen during the day. No big, adult problems to think about. That time when talking about dreams and ambitions can be outlined in pencil and plotted out in colorful drawings. That time when dreams can be summed up by saying you want to live peacefully in a cabin in the hills.
We take caution and do the necessary measures to achieve those dreams but sometimes choices end up in disaster as we cannot always foresee how things will occur. When caught up in these tight spots, we get pulled back to those that truly matter in the first place—we’re encouraged to reacquaint with ourselves; we surrender and learn from anything the world can offer that very instant so that we can have more clarity towards making decisions thereafter.
We assess things with new and different perspectives, find new ones and maximize these unforeseen changes no matter how terrifying and uncertain they may be. In the end, no matter the outcome of any action, this will depend on how we perceive the situation. Easier thought and said than done however.
As someone caught up in a dilemma where inconsistencies and confusion trap me in this self-made cage, I can only count my blessings and hope to relive that courage to walk away from this tight spot. What beliefs and assumptions brought me to this situation? What can I let go of? Is there an opportunity being presented right this very indecisive moment that I can take advantage of so ultimately, I would still have that cabin in the hills. Soon. And I pray that soon is near.